Memorial website in the memory of your loved one

 This memorial website was created 
 in the memory of our loved one, 
 Joseph (Joe) Bravard.   
 We will remember him forever. 

A friend sent Ken and I this quote and 
we felt it so well expressed what is in 
our hearts....

                         I loved the Boy with the utmost
                         love of which my soul is capable,
                         and he is taken from me--
                         yet in the agony of my spirit
                         in surrendering such a treasure,
                         I feel a thousand times richer than
                         if I had never possessed it.

                                          Letter of William Wordsworth
                                          on the death of his son, 1812


      We hope you will share with us any remembrances or 
thoughts you may have of Joe by writing something under 
tributes or perhaps you would like to light a Memorial Candle 
for Joe or add a photo.  Although he is gone, may he not be 
forgotten.
  We cherish your memories.


     I hope you will visit Joe's legacy, which I believe will continue.
I will continue to record the good things God has done, even in the 
midst of tragedy.  I have also put some random thoughts under legacy that may help you if you are grieving (even if you don't know us perhaps it will help) and I will continue to add them.


     Joseph Brandon Bravard, 21, died Sunday, Feb. 26, of injuries 
from a truck accident near Boone, Ia.  Funeral services were held at 
10:30 a.m. Friday, March 3, at the Open Bible Church, with the Rev. 
Phil Waldo officiating. Burial was at Linwood Park Cemetery in Boone.   
     Joe was born Dec. 28, 1984,  the son of Kenneth and Denise 
(Doolittle) Bravard.  He graduated from Boone High School in 2003. 
Joe attended Eugene Bible College in Eugene Ore., and DMACC.  
He was currently taking a break from college and working 
construction.
      He asked Jesus into his heart at the young age of four, and
at the age of 10, he chose to be baptized.
      He was a faithful companion to his dog, Jackson; a friend to many; 
a giver of cherished hugs to his grandmother; and best friend to 
Ben, Elisabeth and Kristin. He was the joy and life of his parents, 
who deeply love him.  
     He loved  playing his guitar and harmonica for his family and with 
his friends.
     He was preceded in death by his grandparents, Duane Doolittle, 
Willis Mills and Everett and Dorothy Bravard.
     He is survived by his parents, Ken and Denise; one brother, 
Ben Bravard and his wife, Kristin; and one sister, Lis Bravard; his
Granddmothers, Berva Mills and Ella Bravard, Aunts and Uncles,  
Cousins and Friends.

     Also lost in the accident were his friends, Grant Ward ( www.grant-ward.memory-of.com )and Trent Knutson.   Another good friend, Clay, survived the accident with serious injuries.  We hope you will join our family in continuing to pray for the families of all the young men and for Clay's healing, both physically and emotionally. 


    
I (Joe's Mom) have been developing  this memorial website to remember 
our beloved son and brother, Joe.  Although over a year has gone 
by since loosing Joe, we now realize what hard work greiving is.....so while 
it may seem to you like a long time has gone past,  for his family it seems 
like yesterday.   We hope you will stop back from time to time and see what
we and other family and friends have shared.

Joe was our joy and a gift from God.  Joe's quick and warm smile always 
helped him make friends easily and he was so fun to be around.  If you 
stopped by our house he would most likely be found with his guitar in hand 
and his harmonica with it's holder strapped around his neck, practicing a 
song.  Maybe you'd hear him singing or humming as he opened the door and 
you'd be greeted with his warm smile.

            He will be missed by so many people who loved him.

We are grateful that Joe is in heaven, for as it says in Ephesians 2:8-9:

              For it is by grace you have been save, through faith--
                 and this not from yourselves, it is the gift of God--
                 not by works so that no one can boast.

Joe believed,  as we his family  believe, this scripture to be true as the Bible 
says, "All scripture is God breathed."

Our prayer is that through this memorial site, we will not only remember and 
honor our beloved son, Joseph, we will honor Jesus Christ.


While to us Joe's time on earth was far too short, God is sovereign and his 
word says....
                "Are not two sparrows sold for a penny?  Yet not one of 
                 them will fall to the ground apart from the will 
                 of your Father."  Matt. 10:29

 How much more precious is Joe to God, then a sparrow worth 1/2 a penny?  
 We are all precious in his site.

At Joe's funeral his father (Ken) spoke about starting a college age group to 
help young people find God's purpose for their life.  It indeed was started a 
week after the funeral and is called A Party With A Purpose (also called 
APWAP).  Joe's brother Ben and his wife Kristin are in charge of the group, 
with Ken and I assisting.  The group is growing and if you are 17 to 23(?) we 
hope you will join us.  You can learn more about APWAP by viewing  
them  at their MySpace site at http://www.myspace.com/booneapwap.  We 
hope you will join us for food, fun, make new friends and most importantly,  
help you find purpose in your life.

For now I would like to end with a  poem written by an unknown author 
that has given us great comfort over the last few months, it says;

                  No chance hath brought this ill to me;
                       Tis God's own hand, so let it be.
                  He seeth what I cannot see--
                       There is a need-be for each pain.
                  And He one day will make it plain
                        That earthly loss is heavenly gain.
                  Like a piece of tapestry
                        Viewed from the back appears to be
                  Naught but threads tangled hopelessly;
                        But in the front a picture rare,
                  Rewards the worker for his care,
                        Proving his skill and patience rare.
                   Thou are the Workman, I the frame,
                       Lord, for the glory of Thy Name,
                   Perfect Thine image in the same.
                                                Based on Psalm 119:167-175

How well this expresses life.  I remind myself that I am just looking at the 
knots and messy threads as our family works through our heavy grief, but
one day God will show us the glorious picture from his heavenly 
perspective.

Maybe the struggles of life are burdening you.  I hope this will help give 
you comfort and a "heavenly" perspective.

By the grace of God we will carry on, His Love endures forever.
                                                                               


Tributes and Condolences
Thinking of you   / Katie Bushnell (friend)
Joe I am thinking of you often and wondering what life would be like if you were still here. I often pray that you are watching over us and think of the day when we will see you again.
A great friend..   / Allison Klampe (a friend from church camp )
I didn't know Joe very well, but I do remember meeting him at church camp back in 2003. I remember his smile the most. He was a very happy guy and that always stuck out to me.. I was looking through my photo album the other day and saw a picture of h...  Continue >>
Thinking of Joe & the ones we have lost   / Angela Ellerbrock (Musser) (Friend & Classmate )
What I remember about Joe is a very caring, understanding & funny guy.  I went to elementary school with Joe.  What I remember the most about that time is when we had to ride the 6th grade bus from Franklin to United.  I grandfathe...  Continue >>
Never forgetting   / Lisa Tourtellott (Friend)
Joe comes to my mind quite often and all I can do is smile. It was a tragic day/month/year when we lost the boys but to people who knew him, I am sure that everyone has the best memories. I find that when I am talking about Joe, I am always bringing ...  Continue >>
almost two years   / Ashley Runge (Friend)
Its been almost two years since the horrible day. I've been thinking of you alot Joe. I went to church the other day, the first time in a while. The sermon was very appropriate for what has been going on about life. The guest pastor spoke of hope, an...  Continue >>
Joe- the Country Superstar  / Elicia Oswald (Friend)    Read >>
Condolences / Steven Bravard (cousin)    Read >>
i never had...  / Jessica O'tool (friend)    Read >>
Still in my prayers  / Danielle Mattson (Friend)    Read >>
Funny guy  / Haylie Balm (friend)    Read >>
Missing you and thinking of your family  / Sharisse Naeve (cousin)    Read >>
Miss You!  / Sarah Trudeau (Friend)    Read >>
one year later  / Ashley Runge (Friend)    Read >>
A year ago...  / Jesse Howard (Friend)    Read >>
Thinking of you and your family  / Annette Westberg (cousin)    Read >>
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His legacy
IT'S BEEN FIVE YEARS....  
...since we lost Joe. It's hard to say whether it's gone fast or slow I guess it depends on the day. There is not a day (or probably an hour) that goes by that we don't think of Joe and the hole that will forever be in our family. However we remain faithful to God in all circumstances. We believe God has a plan in all things for all of us. Joe's Legacy..... Ben and Kristin continue to pastor House of Freedom in Ames (www.hofames.com) - join us any Saturday night at 7:00. We are all there! Elisabeth married Joshua Bomett (they met at House of Freedom) Januari 1 2011 by Nakuru Kenya. My Mom, Monica Reinken (her maid of honor), and I were excited to go to Kenya for the ceremony. It was a beautiful ceremony centered around God. Joe's niece (and namesake) Julia JoLee is almost five. It is amazing how much she is like Joe. She has a twinkle in her eye and brings life to whatever room she is in just like her Uncle Joe! Ken (now retired) continues his writing of the things God has spoken to him and has shown him after the loss of Joe. He will soon be giving seminars (and a book in the future) helping people with broken hearts to heal. I will be joining him in this ministry. We hope if you are not in a relationship with God you will contact us or someone you know that understands this concept so the hope of eternal life through Jesus can be shared with you. It is God's desire that "no one shall perish" and that is our desire also. May God bless you in all things.
November, 2010  
It has been quite awhile since I have posted anything because contrary to what I thought as time passes it becomes harder to return to this website. Probably for many reasons but mostly because in my lack of experience with such an overwhelming loss I had thought as people say "time will heal". Perhaps it does in some ways but I believe with the loss of a child time only dulls the edges of the pain it never goes away and cannot be replaced by anything or anyone. However that said, God continues to use our family for his purposes. I previously spoke about APWAP being started after the accident and it has now become a church House of Freedom in Ames Ia. We continue to minister to young (college age) adults but we now have people of all ages. We gladly welcome all whom God brings to House of Freedom. Please visit our website at www.hofames.com Ben and Kristin continue to pastor this church and Ken and I do whatever we can to assist them. Our goal is always to help people grow in their relationship with Christ. Another part of Joe's legacy is that his little sister Elisabeth (now all grown up) met her fiance Joshua Bomett at House of Freedom. They are now in Kenya and will marry in a few weeks before returning to the U.S. later. Ken and I are grateful that God has brought a godly young man into our family. We know God has big plans for them in the future...serving Him together. Ken has been doing some writing about what God has shown us at this difficult time and we will see what God chooses to do with it. Hopefully my next writing will show what God has chosen to do with Ken's work. Joe's greatest legacy is and will be knowing that people have come to accept Christ as their Savior and will look forward to seeing him in heaven.
A lasting legacy.  

    For many months I have been pondering what I would write for Joe's legacy.  The dictionary says "anything handed down from an ancestor, or, money or property left to someone by a will".  Well, Joe was young and had no property or a will, so what would I write?  After considering this for a long time I thought, such things handed down don't really matter anyway.  
     I thought of what family and friends shared with us after the accident about what Joe meant to them.  His smile, the kindnesses he showed them, his helping nature, his quick wit and easy laugh.  I have come to realize a more important legacy then property and titles, is what impact and what difference you make in peoples lives. I believe that Joe did indeed make a difference in people's live.  
     At his high school graduation party, the daughter (then 10) of a family friend asked her mother, "why were there were so many high school girls there".  Her mother asked, "why do you think they are here".  The daughter said, "because he makes them feel special.", she then continued,  "He makes me feel special".
     Perhaps his legacy will continue on with his friend Mike.  Mike was new to our town and new to the college.  He was sitting alone in the commons area and it was Joe that approached him, introduced himself and invited Mike to join him and his other friends.  They soon became the best of friends.
     I hope his legacy will continue in his friends that he was able to share his belief in Jesus Christ. One friend said they were often having spiritual conversations and Joe was "always on God's side". Sometimes we'd get a call during the evening and Joe would ask his Dad for a particular scripture reference.  He'd be with friends and he was wanting to prove a point and needed the reference.  I hope they were listening.
     I hope his legacy will continue with all the young people that shared their hearts with us at the visitation.  "He was my best friend" we would so often hear.  While many people think you have one best friend, I know God can bless us with many.  Each friend brings something different into your life and you to theirs.  I hope he showed people how to be a friend (and I know he learned from the people around him.)
     May Joe's legacy live on in "A Party With A Purpose".  Because of Joe, we (his family) are able to reach out and share the love of Christ with other young people.
     If you knew Joe, we hope he brought something to your life that made a difference and you can in turn share it with others.
     How much better that would be then to pass on a house that will decay, or treasures that will rust.  I believe things of the heart, when passed along, can endure forever.  Help us pass this legacy to others.
     May God Bless You!


AFTER A YEAR.............

     I decided that I would continue to record things that have happened that I believe are part of Joe's legacy.  Perhaps things that may never have happened or may have been postponed, put off or changed.

   The first item I'll put here is that Joe's older brother, Ben, has received his Associate Pastor's License.  Ben had done the course work but had not decided what direction God would have him go.  He and his wife, Kristin, are leading the group "A Party With A Purpose" that was started after losing Joe.  They continue the group and I believe are making a difference in the lives of those young people attending.

     We have been able, through APWAP, to see many young people commit their lives to God.  At this time seven "APWAP'ers" have been baptized.  Praise God!


Another addition to Joe's legacy, is that Ken has now been licensed as a Pastor. He had previously completed a five year course of study but had not yet applied for a license. We were not sure what the Lord would have us do. We had thought we would go on the road and speak in churches about family issues but had not yet launched out yet. Oddly enough, the night of Joe's accident, Ken and I had a lengthy discussion and decided we were ready and we would do "whatever it takes" to start this ministry (thinking we may have to give up our house, our jobs...)and committed it to God in prayer. About two hours later, Joe was gone. We thought ministry would now never be in our future, how could we minister to anyone with such heavy grief. We now know the Lord wants us to minister to the brokenhearted, those people having lost children, but also other devastating occurances in peoples lives. We are currently making plans to speak and minister to other brokenhearted people.

I hope as time passes and my heart mends, I will be able to contine to record what God continues to add to Joe's legacy through family and friends. If you know of something you think would fit under Joe's legacy, please let me know. I would love to add it to Joe's memorial, it would bless Ken and I and hopefully would make a difference for others.




     Something else to add to Joe's legacy is a newly formed Christian rock band named,  Seventh Sense Forgotten.  This group is formed from a group of young men that became friends at "A Party With A Purpose", the group formed after losing Joe.  They did not know each other before and would most likely never have met if they had not been brought together by this group.  They are committed in their music to sharing Jesus' word and love for all.  Our prayer is that God will bless the work of these young men, Jon L., Joe R., Ben S. and Andy D. and He will use them mightly to  change the lives of other young people.  God Bless them in their work, music and committment.

 

   June 30 - July 8, 2008, my daughter Lis and I and five other people from APWAP went on our first mission trip to Honduras with Impact Ministeries International.  The poverty there was overwhelming.  Honduras is the second poorest country in the Western Hemisphere.  Contrary to what I think alot of Americans think, they are poor not because they don't want to work but because there are so few jobs.  The people that were working, seemed to be doing their work with great pride and care.

     While there, we helped clean and prepare the new orphanage (The Foundation) for the kids (21 of them) to move into and had the priviledge of moving them to the home.  What an exciting moment for them.  We also helped with a Kids Crusade for the "street kids" in their new neighborhood.  Hundreds came and were fed both food and the word of God.  An Open House and Grand Opening were held for the City Officials, we helped at an adult crusade (hundreds gave their hearts to the Lord) and after the Sunday church service we served (after preparing it) about 2500 people lunch.  After lunch, hundreds of kids and single moms received bagged dried food.  These kids and single moms received this because they are sponsored monthly through donations to Impact Ministries Intl.  I am pleased that through APWAP we sponsor eight kids and eight single moms.  If you would like to help you can contact Ben Bravard through APWAP's myspace or contact Impact Ministries at www.tstammen.com.



RANDOM THOUGHTS.....

That may sound like an odd caption, but I really want to be able to share things I have learned and will continue to learn and truths that I believe God has shown me after surviving such a tragedy.  Consider each entry "self-contained"  meaning it may not relate to the thought before it or after it, but I hope each one will stand on it's own and hopefully give you some comfort or understanding of not just where we are but maybe where you are in your own circumstances or a friend.

7/17/07

I have learned that in losing a child, Ken and I will never be the same people again.  I learned this while having lunch with a friend.  As I sat there and tried to make conversation, I realized she was not taking the "old" Denise that was her friend to lunch, it was a "different" me.  However, I know that God can make me a better "Denise" even in the midst of a tragedy.  If you know someone with a similar loss, don't expect them to be the same, just pay attention to who they are becoming and help them be the best their "new self" can be.


3/3/08

It would appear that I have had no random thoughts for a long time but actually, I have, it is just difficult to return to the website too often, so following are some thoughts I've had and things I've learned.

Shortly after the accident I thought I would get comfort by turning on Christian TV.  It only upset me and I had to turn it off.  I thought about it alot and realized the reason I was upset is because the preacher was saying, "Bad things happen to you because your faith isn't strong enough."  Well, he is wrong!  My faith in the daily prayers Ken and I offered for our kids was so strong, I never thought this would happen to us.  What he said caused Ken and I to look up the various scriptures that came to mind and read them in context.  Right away we looked up six scriptures that came to mind and when read in context,each one talked about eternity.  Perhaps some of the things we pray and hope for will not come to pass until we are home with the Lord. 

The lesson here is to  be careful what you listen to.  Just because a preacher says it, it doesn't always make it right.  I think sometimes they take the scripture out of context, to work into what they want to talk about, some may be doing it inadvertantly, others carelessly or perhaps others with their own agenda.  If things don't sound right check it against scripture yourself.....read it in context.

Another thought I've had is regarding giving grieving advise.  Be careful if you are consoling a grieving person as to what you compare it to.  Believe me, losing a son it absolutely not the same as losing a Grandparent. However sad it is to lose a grandparent, it is not as heart wrenching.  Ken and I know, I lost my Dad when I was only 18 and Ken, his Mom at age 23.  My Mother who had been widowed twice, said losing her beloved Grandson was the worst grief to face. 

In a book I read the author said, "If you have lived similar circumstances, you can give advice."  I think otherwise, perhaps, it's best to listen and offer encouragement but don't tell them how to get over their grief.



3/4/08

Another thought I had regarding Christian TV (i.e. TBN) is that the preachers are always talking about health, wealth and prosperity.  (Only about 4 times in two years have we heard anyone talk about loss and grief.)  Again, I would encourage you to read about John the Baptist, the scripture says, no man was greater, yet he was beheaded, Stephen was stoned, Paul was in prison, and Job ("no one was more righteous" the bible says), who lost his children and all his wealth.  The Disciples all died horrific martyrs deaths, except one and of course, Jesus, who was sinless, yet was beaten and crucified.  If TV preachers talk about that too much, I think they perhaps think they won't be successful.  However, I feel the most successful Pastors are perhaps those who can bring someone out of darkness, grief, loneliness, etc. and give them hope.  God did that for us in the resurrection of his Son, Jesus.  Hope of life eternal.







     

 
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